For decades, we’ve been told to “save, save, save.” But what happens when the time comes to spend?
The transition from building wealth to enjoying it isn’t just financial—it’s deeply emotional. Many retirees, even those with ample savings, struggle with the psychological hurdle of spending what they’ve worked so hard to accumulate.1 The habits and fears formed over a lifetime don’t simply vanish at retirement. As a result, some unintentionally sacrifice comfort, joy, and once-in-a-lifetime experiences, despite having the means to afford them.
Raised to Save, Struggling to Spend
The origin of this cautious approach to spending often traces back to early-life conditioning. Many of today’s oldest retirees—those in their mid-80s to mid-90s—were born during or just after the Great Depression. Known as Depression-era babies, they grew up in a time of extreme economic turmoil, or were raised by parents who did. This experience left a lasting psychological imprint that shaped their views on money and spending.
For these individuals, spending, even on things they can afford, can feel irresponsible or shameful. Financial behaviors are often modeled and passed down, so the after-effects of Depression-era scarcity still affect people today. Children and grandchildren may internalize similar beliefs, continuing a cycle of financial anxiety and excessive frugality.
This resistance may show up in a multitude of ways: delaying necessary home or car repairs, avoiding vacations, or limiting gift-giving. These examples may seem excessive, but to many, they’re emotionally protective strategies meant to ease internal discomfort.
This cautious mindset continues to influence spending behavior well into retirement, regardless of financial need.
The Retirement Consumption Gap
Many retirees experience what’s known as the retirement consumption gap—the disconnect between what they can spend and what they actually spend. This gap is often driven by:
- Habit: Decades of prioritizing saving over spending are hard to undo
- Discomfort: The pain of spending often outweighs the joy of enjoying
- Just-in-case savings: Keeping a large financial cushion for emergencies
Even when financial professionals assure their clients that “it’s okay to spend,” some retirees feel guilt or anxiety about loosening the purse strings.2 Bridging the retirement consumption gap means helping retirees feel more confident and comfortable spending the money they’ve saved.