What Happens to Your Body When the Pressure’s On
These stress responses can make it harder to think clearly, speak smoothly, and connect with your audience.
Heart Rate Increase1
Up to 100% spikeShallow Breathing2
Reduced oxygen intakeCortisol Surge3
Stress hormone fuels anxiety
1Tachycardia, Mayo Clinic, 12/15/23
2Understanding the stress response, Harvard Health, 4/3/24
3Stress effects on the body, American Psychological Association, 10/21/24
Feeling nervous isn’t a flaw, it’s human. Whether you’re stepping onto a stage, logging into a virtual meeting, or preparing for a high-stakes conversation, nerves are a natural response to situations that matter. They signal that you care, that you’re invested, and that you want to do well.
When nerves are left unmanaged, however, the anxiety can cause you to stumble over your words, lose your train of thought, or come across as uncertain—even when you know your material inside and out. In high-stakes moments, that can mean missed opportunities and leaving an underwhelming impression that sells you short.
So, while nerves are normal, they don’t have to take the lead. With the right strategies, you can manage that anxious energy and turn it into a source of focus and strength. This article explores why nerves show up, how to keep them in check, and when they tend to peak, so you can show up with clarity and confidence.
Why Managing Nerves Matters
Confidence plays a crucial role in growing your practice, often influencing prospects as much as expertise does. When you remain calm and composed, it conveys assurance and credibility, which can significantly impact how your message is received.
On the other hand, visible nervousness, even when you’re thoroughly prepared, can unintentionally signal uncertainty and potentially undermine your authority. Nervous energy can also become a distraction, drawing attention away from your message and weakening your connection with the audience.
Beyond perception, managing nerves also improves performance. When you’re calm, you’re able to think more clearly, make better decisions in the moment, and deliver your message with greater clarity and impact. In high-stakes situations, this can be the difference between gaining a client and watching a major opportunity slip away.
Techniques to Manage and Reduce Nerves
Fortunately, there are practical, research-backed techniques that can help you manage and reduce nervousness in these moments.
The Illusion of Transparency1
It often feels like everyone can see your nervousness, but research shows that’s rarely the case. This is known as the illusion of transparency, where we overestimate how visible our internal state is to others. Reminding yourself that your anxiety isn’t as obvious as it feels can be incredibly freeing. Most people are too focused on what you’re saying to notice a shaky hand or a slight quiver in your voice.
The Spotlight Effect2
We often feel like all eyes are on us, analyzing every word and gesture—a phenomenon known as the spotlight effect. But here’s the good news: most people are only partially paying attention.
They’re distracted, daydreaming, or focused on their own thoughts. The bad news? Because their attention is limited, it’s even more important that our communication is clear and confident. Recognizing this can help you relax and shift your focus from self-consciousness to delivering your message effectively.
Reframing Your Nervousness3
Physiologically, nervousness and excitement are nearly identical: racing heart, faster breaths, heightened alertness. The difference lies in interpretation. By consciously reframing your nerves as excitement, you can harness that energy in a positive way. This mindset shift can improve performance and help you feel more in control.
Visualization4
It’s completely natural to worry that you’ll mess up when speaking in front of others. Most of us imagine worst-case scenarios—forgetting our words, losing our place, or freezing under pressure.
But instead of focusing on what could go wrong, try mentally rehearsing what could go right. Visualizing a successful outcome—seeing yourself speak clearly, engaging with your audience, and handling questions with ease—can build confidence and reduce anxiety. It’s a way of preparing your mind for success before you even begin.
+1 Breathing5
When nerves kick in, it’s common to breathe more quickly and shallowly, sometimes without even realizing it. This kind of breathing can make your voice quiver, your chest tighten, and your anxiety spike. But there’s a simple way to counteract it: controlled breathing. Inhale for four seconds, then exhale for five, or however long that feels comfortable to you.
That slightly longer exhale activates your body’s calming response, helping you feel more centered and in control. Practicing this for just a minute or two before a big moment can help settle your nerves and steady your voice.
Distanced Self-talk6
Instead of saying “I’ve got this,” try saying your name or using the third person— “You’ve got this, Ryan.” This subtle shift creates emotional distance from the anxiety and helps you regulate your response more effectively. Why? We’re generally nicer and more supportive to others than we are to ourselves.