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What Happens to Your Body When the Pressure’s On

These stress responses can make it harder to think clearly, speak smoothly, and connect with your audience.

  • Heart Rate Increase1
    Up to 100% spike

  • Shallow Breathing2
    Reduced oxygen intake

  • Cortisol Surge3
    Stress hormone fuels anxiety

1Tachycardia, Mayo Clinic, 12/15/23

2Understanding the stress response, Harvard Health, 4/3/24

3Stress effects on the body, American Psychological Association, 10/21/24

Feeling nervous isn’t a flaw, it’s human. Whether you’re stepping onto a stage, logging into a virtual meeting, or preparing for a high-stakes conversation, nerves are a natural response to situations that matter. They signal that you care, that you’re invested, and that you want to do well.

When nerves are left unmanaged, however, the anxiety can cause you to stumble over your words, lose your train of thought, or come across as uncertain—even when you know your material inside and out. In high-stakes moments, that can mean missed opportunities and leaving an underwhelming impression that sells you short.

So, while nerves are normal, they don’t have to take the lead. With the right strategies, you can manage that anxious energy and turn it into a source of focus and strength. This article explores why nerves show up, how to keep them in check, and when they tend to peak, so you can show up with clarity and confidence.

 

Why Managing Nerves Matters

Confidence plays a crucial role in growing your practice, often influencing prospects as much as expertise does. When you remain calm and composed, it conveys assurance and credibility, which can significantly impact how your message is received.

On the other hand, visible nervousness, even when you’re thoroughly prepared, can unintentionally signal uncertainty and potentially undermine your authority. Nervous energy can also become a distraction, drawing attention away from your message and weakening your connection with the audience.

Beyond perception, managing nerves also improves performance. When you’re calm, you’re able to think more clearly, make better decisions in the moment, and deliver your message with greater clarity and impact. In high-stakes situations, this can be the difference between gaining a client and watching a major opportunity slip away.

 

Techniques to Manage and Reduce Nerves

Fortunately, there are practical, research-backed techniques that can help you manage and reduce nervousness in these moments.

  1. The Illusion of Transparency1

    It often feels like everyone can see your nervousness, but research shows that’s rarely the case. This is known as the illusion of transparency, where we overestimate how visible our internal state is to others. Reminding yourself that your anxiety isn’t as obvious as it feels can be incredibly freeing. Most people are too focused on what you’re saying to notice a shaky hand or a slight quiver in your voice.

  2. The Spotlight Effect2

    We often feel like all eyes are on us, analyzing every word and gesture—a phenomenon known as the spotlight effect. But here’s the good news: most people are only partially paying attention.

    They’re distracted, daydreaming, or focused on their own thoughts. The bad news? Because their attention is limited, it’s even more important that our communication is clear and confident. Recognizing this can help you relax and shift your focus from self-consciousness to delivering your message effectively.

  3. Reframing Your Nervousness3

    Physiologically, nervousness and excitement are nearly identical: racing heart, faster breaths, heightened alertness. The difference lies in interpretation. By consciously reframing your nerves as excitement, you can harness that energy in a positive way. This mindset shift can improve performance and help you feel more in control.

  4. Visualization4

    It’s completely natural to worry that you’ll mess up when speaking in front of others. Most of us imagine worst-case scenarios—forgetting our words, losing our place, or freezing under pressure.

    But instead of focusing on what could go wrong, try mentally rehearsing what could go right. Visualizing a successful outcome—seeing yourself speak clearly, engaging with your audience, and handling questions with ease—can build confidence and reduce anxiety. It’s a way of preparing your mind for success before you even begin.

  5. +1 Breathing5

    When nerves kick in, it’s common to breathe more quickly and shallowly, sometimes without even realizing it. This kind of breathing can make your voice quiver, your chest tighten, and your anxiety spike. But there’s a simple way to counteract it: controlled breathing. Inhale for four seconds, then exhale for five, or however long that feels comfortable to you.

    That slightly longer exhale activates your body’s calming response, helping you feel more centered and in control. Practicing this for just a minute or two before a big moment can help settle your nerves and steady your voice.

  6. Distanced Self-talk6

    Instead of saying “I’ve got this,” try saying your name or using the third person— “You’ve got this, Ryan.” This subtle shift creates emotional distance from the anxiety and helps you regulate your response more effectively. Why? We’re generally nicer and more supportive to others than we are to ourselves.

 

What Happens to Your Body When the Pressure’s On

These stress responses can make it harder to think clearly, speak smoothly, and connect with your audience.

  • Heart Rate Increase1
    Up to 100% spike

  • Shallow Breathing2
    Reduced oxygen intake

  • Cortisol Surge3
    Stress hormone fuels anxiety

1Tachycardia, Mayo Clinic, 12/15/23

2Understanding the stress response, Harvard Health, 4/3/24

3Stress effects on the body, American Psychological Association, 10/21/24

6 Ways to Manage Nerves

  • The Illusion of Transparency
    Others don’t notice your nerves as much as you think.

  • The Spotlight Effect 
    People are often too distracted to notice any minor mistakes.

  • Reframing Nervousness
    Shift anxiety into excitement.

  • Visualization
    Mentally rehearse success before it happens.

  • +1 Breathing
    Inhale, then exhale slightly longer to calm your nervous system.

  • Distanced Self-talk
    Use your name to coach yourself through stress.

Situations In Which the Techniques Can Be Used

These techniques are especially valuable in situations where nervousness can throw us off our game. Public speaking is a common trigger, as presenting to a group often heightens nerves and self-awareness.

Similarly, speaking on a webinar can amplify anxiety due to the absence of in-person cues, making it harder to gauge reactions and maintain engagement. Presenters may also face challenges when navigating certain technological tasks or tools.

Lastly, high-stakes meetings—such as meetings with prospects or top clients—can feel like all-or-nothing moments, intensifying the pressure to perform flawlessly.

In each of these situations, managing nerves and projecting confidence can make a significant difference.

 

“But I’ve always been nervous before big events. I don’t think I can change that.”

The truth is you can. The goal isn’t to eliminate nerves completely— it’s about managing them so they don’t manage you. Of course, if anxiousness seems unmanageable and affects your sleep or well-being, consult a healthcare professional. Otherwise, you can build new habits that help you stay composed and effective, even in high-pressure situations.

 

To Summarize

First, understand that nerves are a natural response to high-pressure situations. However, if left unmanaged, they can influence how you’re perceived and hinder your ability to communicate effectively. Second, apply practical strategies to steady your nerves and present your best self with clarity and confidence. Third, be aware of the situations that tend to heighten anxiety—such as public speaking, webinars and high-stakes conversations—so you can anticipate challenges and prepare accordingly.

 

Turn Your Anxiety into Strength

Confidence isn’t about never feeling nervous, it’s about moving forward even when you do. I know this firsthand. I nearly failed a college class because I was too anxious to give my final presentation. Fast forward a few years (ok, maybe more than a few), and I’m now a professional speaker and communication coach. What changed? I learned to understand what triggered my anxiety and started using practical strategies to manage it.

Those nerves? They’re not a flaw; they’re a signal that you care. When channeled effectively, that energy can sharpen your focus and elevate your performance. I know—I once performed on stage with Second City’s improv troupe, and I used every single tip I now teach to keep up with some amazingly fast and funny people.

Confidence grows not by avoiding discomfort, but by proving to yourself again and again that you can handle it. Each time you push through, you build trust in your own resilience. And that’s where real confidence begins.

 

Next Step

Choose one technique that resonates with you. Maybe it’s +1 breathing, visualization, or reframing your nerves. Practice it before your next big moment, and you’ll see these small shifts can lead to big results. Want to go further? Talk to your Hartford Funds Advisor Consultant to learn more about our related communication content and coaching.

6 Ways to Manage Nerves

  • The Illusion of Transparency
    Others don’t notice your nerves as much as you think.

  • The Spotlight Effect 
    People are often too distracted to notice any minor mistakes.

  • Reframing Nervousness
    Shift anxiety into excitement.

  • Visualization
    Mentally rehearse success before it happens.

  • +1 Breathing
    Inhale, then exhale slightly longer to calm your nervous system.

  • Distanced Self-talk
    Use your name to coach yourself through stress.


About The Author
Julie L. Genjac
Vice President and Managing Director, Applied Insights, Hartford Funds

Ryan has spoken to in-person audiences in 46 states and been a featured speaker on over a thousand webinars. As a CFP® and Registered Corporate Coach (RCC™), he has extensive experience coaching financial professionals on their communication skills. Ryan’s also created a wide variety of content for Hartford Funds on topics like optimizing virtual meetings, presentation skills, crisis communication, and personal branding. For a private consultation to refine your communication skills, reach out to your Hartford Funds Advisor Consultant.

 

1 The Illusion of Transparency and the Alleviation of Speech Anxiety, American Psychological Association, 2003. Most recent data available.

2 The Spotlight Effect: Not Everyone Is Staring at You, verywellmind.com, 8/23.

3 Can Three Words Turn Anxiety Into Success?, The Atlantic, 3/16. Most recent data available.

4 Why Speakers Need to Visualize, forbes.com, 9/14. Most recent data available.

5 Longer Exhalations Are an Easy Way to Hack Your Vagus Nerve, Psychology Today, 5/19. Most recent data available.

6 Silent Third Person Self-Talk Facilitates Emotion Regulation, Psychology Today, 7/17. Most recent data available.